As part of our #JoJoTakeTwo campaign, we asked a few of our mums at the London office about their experiences with pregnancy the second time around. They’ve all got two children each but that’s where the similarities end!
Retail marketing assistant Victoria, mum to Olly, 7 and Lucy, 5:
“I think the major difference second time around was that I just didn’t have the time to sit and ponder about it with another baby to look after. When I was pregnant first time around I had all the books and subscribed to the pregnancy calendars and was keenly aware of what was happening on what date – e.g. your baby’s eyelashes start growing today etc.! Second time around with a 9 month old baby to look after, I just had to get on with it and didn’t have a clue about what “stage” the pregnancy was at! However, I did go off coffee and fish both times!
Despite having my hands full, my second pregnancy itself was much less stressful in that I knew exactly what was going to happen so I was less fearful of it. I felt more confident when talking to the midwives and doctors and achieved something vaguely like the birth plan I had in mind.
I definitely had less attention from friends and family second time around! But then the announcement we made was less dramatic than with our first. Most people just said “Another one…so soon…are you mad!””
Marketing assistant Steph, mum to Leo, 5 and Darcey, 2:
“I found that my second pregnancy was slightly easier as I knew what to expect when it came to things like lack of sleep, heartburn and all the other ailments that come with being pregnant so you just get on with it! What I did find difficult is that you can’t just stop and have a rest when you have a spare moment and even on the rare occasions that I did try to have a rest on the sofa I would have my, at the time, 2 ½ year old son Leo waving his toys in my face asking for help or wanting me to play with him. Whilst I don’t believe in sticking children in front of the TV I have to say it was a godsend when I just needed to close my eyes for 10 minutes. Looking back we did have some lovely moments when we would both end up laying side by side together on the sofa with bump in the middle. Happy days!!
I have to say I was very lucky with both births. With my first, Leo, I was in labour for about 20 hours, although there were no major complications. With my youngest, my waters didn’t break like last time, I just started to get mild contractions around 1:00pm and then she arrived and 6:15pm later on that same afternoon after only 14 minutes of pushing, so everything was a lot quicker compared to my first.
Cravings are a very strange thing, I am not a huge lover of meat but when I was pregnant with my son all I wanted to eat was meat which I found quite funny as I knew I was having a boy, a typical meat loving male! Milk was another thing I used to crave, we must have gone through gallons of milk with both of my pregnancies. With Darcey I found myself wanting mostly sweet treats and chocolate although I am not sure if that was a craving or just an excuse for my own sweet tooth.
Although I received less attention the second time, I found that people where still interested and still liked to ask questions. It also helped that by the second time round I already had friends I could talk to, friends I had met from baby groups who had children and knew what I was going through.”
Digital marketing assistant Dilpa, mum to Shiv, 12 and Amba, 3:
“My first pregnancy was pretty straight-forward and I was very excited when I found out I was expecting again. The pregnancy was going beautifully with minimal morning sickness. The 20 weeks routine scan showed that the baby was healthy. Everything was progressing well, with the only hiccup being raised blood pressure but at this stage I was thoroughly enjoying my growing baby bump. In the evenings after dinner was when the baby was most active I would watch my stomach contort into different shapes. Feeling great, I planned to work as long as I possibly could.
From week 26 onwards things started to change. I noticed that my ankles and legs started to swell up, but I honestly didn’t think too much of it. According to my midwives and all the literature out there, it was considered normal, especially when my antenatal checks were perfect, apart from the blood pressure which was controlled by the medication.
At 28 weeks, I had a scheduled appointment with the obstetrician. He pointed out the baby’s heartbeat and carried on with the measurements. As the scan went on it became clear there was a problem. It was explained to me that the baby was 2 weeks behind in growth. I was put on a course of 4 doses of Cortisone steroids. The steroids would help strengthen the baby’s premature lungs in case I had to have an early birth.
At 29 weeks, I went into hospital for a routine blood pressure check. On arrival I was placed on to a CTG monitor, it took a few minutes to find the babies’ heart beat and in which time I was getting extremely anxious. My blood pressure was quite high, the blood test showed that my liver proteins were slightly elevated and that there was also protein in my urine. I had developed pre-eclampsia and was told to have an emergency Caesarean.
Baby girl Amba was delivered on the 28th December 2011 at 17.48 pm. She was 29 + 5 weeks gestation, weighed 1040g.”
We’d love to hear about your second pregnancy experiences. Was it easier the second time around? What did you learn from your first pregnancy that helped you with your next? Comment below or join in the conversation over on Twitter, using the hashtag #JoJoTakeTwo.
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