Breastfeeding Vouchers…is this fair?

November 15, 2013
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We all have ‘breast is best’ drummed into us by the midwives, and most of us want to breastfeed and plan to during our pregnancy. However, as soon as we go into labour all hell breaks loose. THINGS JUST DON’T GO ACCORDING TO PLAN.

From my experience, breastfeeding was total, unbelievable agony with my first son. So painful in the first two weeks that I needed to bite on a rag as my amazingly perfect little boy latched on. But I never resented it and I was lucky enough to have an older, very cosy, West Indian health visitor who laughed at my pain in a good natured way. She told me it would get better in time and one day I would forget all my troubles and nursing would become second nature.

She was right on one count, breastfeeding my baby became an easy norm and I could not imagine why people went to the faff of sterilising bottles when you could offer milk on tap whilst forming the most incredible bond with your little one. However, my midwife was wrong about forgetting the pain. I never have and never will. Sore, cracked nipples almost make us forget the trauma of the birth. Maybe that’s our creator’s plan? But I persevered through the first few weeks and things did get a little better. I take great pleasure in reminding my (now 18 year old) son, how strong a grip he had as he latched onto my poor bleeding nipples! Such fun embarrassing one’s progeny in later years … don’t forget to take plenty of photos to put on a big screen slideshow at their birthday parties in years to come!

By the time my second son was born the nipples were a little tougher and in the end I managed to nurse both my boys till they were more than 6 months old. I loved it and it was a reason to rush home to them from work, as I juggled my home and work life. BUT whilst I fully believe it is worth going through the early difficulties of breastfeeding, I also feel that there is nothing wrong with introducing bottles quite early on. The sooner you offer a bottle (if you like, with expressed breast milk), the less likely your baby will reject a teat. Mixing breast and bottle can be a good idea on many levels, including in my case, as it allowed my husband to babysit and feel useful. Breastfeeding can make the man in your life feel isolated. If you run your own business, there are times you just have to leave your baby for a meeting and a few bottles of expressed milk in the fridge are a life saver. Juggling breast and bottle is a well-documented option which is obviously not for all but then neither is exclusive breastfeeding good for all. It would have been a nightmare for me.

As a result I just don’t agree with this £200 in vouchers scheme for those who breastfeed. It’s total nonsense. If the mother is that keen to breastfeed exclusively until her baby is 6 months old, she will have saved so much money on bottles and formula that she does not need them. If she can’t breastfeed because of medical problems, this will just add to her feeling of failure and if she wants to juggle like I did, I presume she will lie to the midwife.

This is a ridiculous initiative. What we should be doing is educating mothers who are worried about breastfeeding and encouraging them to ‘give it a go’, at least for the first three weeks. What we will find is that a natural bond will develop and they will wonder what all the fuss was about. Breastfeeding and nurturing my little babies is probably the most rewarding and emotional experience I have ever felt. Just do your best, don’t expect it to be easy and make up your own mind. And if you just can’t breastfeed, don’t worry too much; your baby will be absolutely fine.

6 Responses to Breastfeeding Vouchers…is this fair?

  1. Beth on November 15, 2013 at 10:10 am

    While I agree that the initiative is silly, I was struck by the fact you thought your husband was babysitting – surely he is just looking after his own child?

  2. Kate on November 15, 2013 at 10:34 am

    Rediculous idea. My daughter is lactose intolerant therefor had to have prescribed milk by the gp and not aloud to give breast milk it would make mothers like us feel bad if you want to breast feed but can’t whilst others are getting vouchers.

  3. Yaz on November 15, 2013 at 11:21 am

    I agree it’s a silly idea, some mums desperately want to breastfeed but physically can’t. It’s not fair to award those who are lucky enough to find it easy and somewhat belittle the people who have tried their best but can’t. It’s every woman’s choice and nobody has a right to judge them whatever their choice is, especially the government!

  4. Dominique Wardle on November 15, 2013 at 2:01 pm

    Although I’m one of the lucky ones as have no issues with breast feeding, if I wasn’t able to breast feed my Son but desperately wanted to, I’d be devastated. I feel the financial incentive is just plain patronising. If women want to breast feed, by bottles or by boob, they will! Against-definitely against!

  5. Angie on November 15, 2013 at 6:12 pm

    It is a shame my little is one now so I missed out on it! I loved the close bond I got with my baby by breast feeding and I was surprised when I saw on the telly we were one of the worse in the world for lack of breast feeding. I suppose they are trying anything to get mothers to try it but I know of two babies who had a tongue tie which prevents them latching on. They had to wait two weeks to get it sorted and by then the baby has got use to bottles. I feel the best way is to sort it at birth, less trauma for mum & baby. This is what they should focus on

  6. Liz parkins on November 15, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    I agree. Vouchers patronising, ridiculous and hard to police. The whole system of support to mothers and babies in uk needs to be rethought especially the current health visiting system and the advice dished out to mothers. There needs to be more practical, positive support re breast feeding and more support of mothers who are struggling, but less money wasted on initiatives like this and pointless reviews of mothers and babies who are fine and don’t need intervention. Mothers with small babies are very vulnerable and bad advice or a lack of appropriate support, as currently seems to happen too often, can cause so many problems.

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