When I’m not having fun with my 2 gorgeous daughters, Gracie & Haddie, I run a wedding planning company called Magic Dust. Launched in 2006 after leaving the crazy world of magazine publishing – I was Commercial Director on Grazia when it launched in the UK – we have always sought to be refreshing, simple & invaluable in everything we do. After all, if you’re trying to plan a wedding whilst juggling your day to day responsibilities, the last thing you need is a wedding planner who makes things complicated, tries to fit you and your wedding into a ‘one size fits all’ package and is more of a hindrance than a help!
If I could pass on one piece of advice to every couple getting married it would be this: prioritise, prioritise, prioritise. Put simply, before you spend a single penny on your wedding you absolutely must sit down with your partner and discuss the things that you don’t want to compromise on and the ones that you will happily do without. The confidence this will then give you is worth its weight in gold – if you have agreed that great photography, excellent food and a live band are the things you can’t live without but that you don’t need an expensive cake, masses of flowers or a vintage car, you are much less likely to fall for the ‘you must have this or your wedding will be rubbish’ messages the wedding industry will bombard you with.
Not only will you end up having the wedding that you want, rather than the one other people think you should have, but you are likely to save yourself money too and that is a great way to start married life.
It’s also worth remembering that there are absolutely no prizes to be won for trying to do everything yourself when planning your wedding. Yes, I know it’s tempting but it will only lead to dark circles under your eyes and inevitable tears, I promise. Take time to surround yourself with a team of people you trust – friends, family, professionals – to help you and then make sure you actually let them help you. This is particularly important if you are pregnant and organising your wedding, you owe it to yourself to minimise the stress and make sure you have enough time to relax and enjoy the process of planning your wedding and the anticipation of your big day, and if you can’t put your feet up when you’re expecting, you probably never will!
Finally, pregnant or not, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you have to wear heels to get married in. Seriously, nothing will dull your enjoyment of your special day more quickly than sore, tired feet and with the huge range of pretty ballet pumps and bejewelled sandals on offer, you can be stylish and gorgeous without wincing at every step. I speak from experience as I wore a pair of white Hogan trainers for the evening reception of my own wedding day and danced until dawn!
Whatever you do, enjoy planning your wedding and every second of a day that will absolutely fly by – don’t forget to step back and soak up the atmosphere, it’s priceless!